What to do? dealing with poop!

DEALING WITH POOP

Picture a happy scene, you are skipping along, the weather is perfect, you have had a lovely morning and then, suddenly, a big pile of stinky, steaming poop lands on your lap!

How do you respond?

Well here is a lesson for you all.  Not that I am an expert on life, but I certainly know what makes me happy, what is worth fighting for, and what is not worth my time, energy and health.

Let's first look at the poop!  What is it good for?   Well, depending on what animal it comes from, it can be great for the garden, but it can also be toxic and good for nothing.

So, determine what good can come from it?  Can it go on your garden, feed your crops and help to grow good strong plants for your enjoyment, or will it make you ill?

Can you get stronger from said 'poop', or weaker?

Once you have determined if it is worth using or not, then you decide what to do with it. Throw it on your garden, or in the bin.

In other words, can you grow stronger from that steaming pile of poop, or will it only serve to make you ill, ruin your day, and days to come, and make you very unhappy?

Once you have realized what it is worth, DEAL WITH IT APPROPRIATELY.  

You and only you have the power to do what is needed to make your life happy again, to either 'use' the poop, or let it go.   And when I say 'use' it, I do not mean chew on it for days, because everyone knows, you will not enjoy chewing on poop, nor will it do you any good! Yuk!

What I do mean though, is learn from it, use that pile of unwelcome, stinking poop for good, see what good has or could come from it, and WRITE THE POSITIVES DOWN, keep them as a reminder. THROW THE REST AWAY, for good.

Now, some people are like flies, they like to fly around poop all day, seeing what it smells like and regurgitating it over and over.                                                                                       It seems to satisfy them.

I am sure you are not one of these people, and if you are anything like me, you will not enjoy a poop chewing, poop vomiting creature flitting around you all day.   

Which leads me to your next step to happiness..... SWAT THEM AWAY,  they are destructive and useless, they spread illness wherever they land.

You do not need that, so, take a look at the flies in your life and get rid, or at least limit the time you spend around them and their joy sapping influence.

Right, so you have examined the poop, sifted out the good stuff, if any, and thrown the rest away, along with the flies buzzing around it.

Now, wash your hands, and everything it has touched, get it out of your hair so-to-speak. 

There will not be anything good come from chewing it over again, you have thrown it out, now get rid of all traces, and if the poop smell drifts back in, just close that window, and fill the room with another, more pleasant aroma..  In other words, STOP THINKING ABOUT IT, and fill your mind with good positive things.   

Get old photo albums out, put on some music that takes you back to happier days. Do something you really enjoy, make something, or go someplace nice.

Just be sure to get that stink out of your system, and pretty soon, you will be back on your road to happiness again.

And remember, people will throw poop at you again and again.  If you know where the poop is coming from, STOP GOING THERE!!

And if an unexpected pile of poop lands on you, just go through these same processes again.

One thing I have learnt is....Look at your OWN life.   Don't look in the mirror, and then go and tell someone else how to clean up THEIR poop, just deal with YOUR OWN.  If someone genuinely wants help cleaning up their poop, and you can cope with it, then by all means go for it, but don't interfere with other peoples poop, and don't waste your time, energy, health and happiness trying to please the poop throwers, it is a useless exercise that will only end up in exhaustion. 

And when people with poop all over their lives come to you to tell you how to clean up, SMILE, AND WALK AWAY.

Heard of EFT?

It seems a bit odd, but oh well, lets try it!

Have any of you heard of EFT? Emotional Freedom Techniques?  Or Tapping? No neither had I, until I watched a film about it on Food Matters TV .

The film is called The Tapping Solution.

Can I tell you that I was very very sceptical when I started to watch it, the reason being, it looks and sounds crazy, and I am very wary of anything that leans toward the 'spiritual' when it comes to alternative therapies. 

So, as you can imagine, I did not take to this too quickly, but let me say that soon it became very clear that this was a physical and emotional therapy and not anything spiritual.  

It started to make real sense the more I watched...

The easiest way to describe it is, talking to yourself about how you feel, while tapping on pressure points on your body, they are called meridian points if I remember correctly.

Studies at Harvard Medical School have revealed that by stimulating the body’s meridian points – the same spots on your body that are manipulated by acupuncturists – you can significantly reduce activity in a part of your brain called the amygdala. 

And the way I can understand how it works is that you learn to suppress emotion from an early age, and to bury the pain associated with it, and tapping changes the signals to the brain regarding the pain and the emotion surrounding such pains, thus releasing trapped emotion and eliminating the pain connected to that emotion.

'Right, I am going to give it a go', I thought to myself as I sat watching, so, as the people on the video tapped, I started, and within seconds I was crying!!!  I do not find it easy to cry, so this shocked me, I stopped at once, and shoved those emotions down back where they came from, I didn't like that at all, and was so confused as to why they came up, I was not even talking about anything emotional!!

I continued to watch the video and it was explained that this release of emotion was very very common, and we should not bury them, as this is what we have done for too long, which has resulted in pains in our bodies.

So I decided to give it another go, and sure enough, within seconds I was crying again, and I mean really crying, but I continued, tapping and talking it out to myself.

I started to feel things from my past that I had buried, things that I hated to talk about, even think about, but I was determined to carry this thing on to see what happened.

Now at this point can I just stop and tell you that I am a very strong person, and to do this is so foreign to me, I have always tended to fight through emotion and push ahead regardless of pain, I have always thought that you should just deal with it, and by deal with it, I mean bury it and move on.  Well, it seems that by doing so I have caused myself a lot of grief which has lead to illness.

I continue..

I tapped and talked about ONE thing that has upset me for years from my past, one moment that happened that hurt me, and I tapped it out.

It actually made me felt better, not only physically, but emotionally too, a kind of freshness I cant really explain, but I felt lighter somehow.

Well, I don't know if it was working or it was just psychological, but I felt better, and I am going to do more, 

That was the first time I had done it, and being a sceptic, I am not going to jump up and be an advocate for tapping, I am just going to do it again and again and see what happens.

I wanted to share it with you because it is part of my progress toward getting to grips with loving myself.

I hope you give it a go, or at least look at some of the videos on YouTube or on The Tapping Solutions web page. Make up your own mind and let me know what happened.

I will of course be letting you know my progress as promised in my previous blog.

Hope you enjoyed reading this, and I truly hope it helps you in some way.

Keep in touch 

xx

Time for change!

I accept myself unconditionally right now!

Or in other words, 'I am completely happy with the person I am right now!'

Do you know how hard it is for me to say these words?  In fact I can't say them, I find it hard just thinking it is OK to write them.

Am I alone in that?  I don't think I am.

I saw an image the other day, and casually commented on it, I said 'I have never done this'.

What I put really impacted on me, I had to think about it, 'why have I never done this?' 

Well, because of years of practise I dismissed my thoughts, and hoped that those disturbing thoughts would go away and I would be OK.  

Until I saw a film called 'Hungry for change', 

I wanted to watch it because of my health, I have an illness that will not go away according to doctors, and I have to just learn how to live with it, but it is so hard to live with, and I feel that I can fight it, and so I wanted to see if there is anything I am missing from my already very healthy diet.

I drink fresh organic juice every day, I eat food that is real, I avoid highly processed high sugar or sweetened foods, I drink plenty of water and herbal tea. But I am still not well.

I watched all the way through the film, writing down helpful tips, and thinking 'I am doing so much of what they say, why am I still so ill!!!?'

And then came the last part of the film, the wrecking ball!!   BOOOM!!  right in between my eyes

..... You need a positive mental image of yourself to actually move forward to good health, it talked about learning to tell yourself that you are wonderful,

PFFFFTTTT!!!!! HA HA HA HA HA HA HA!!!! Oh boy! something so foreign to me.

I started to cry, the realisation that I do not love myself, or actually think much of myself at all, in fact, if I met myself, I would not want to be my friend.

 It hit me so hard.

I won't go into details, as this is not the reason for my blog, but I decided to take each negative thought that I have of myself and deal with each one with a positive.

'You are fat'......'You look great for someone that has had 3 kids'

'You made some really bad choices'.........'Look at what you have learnt'

'You are a rubbish Mum'...........'You have 3 amazing kids, you must be doing something right'

And the list goes on, and continues to do so.

The film said, that you need to fill up your mind with positives. And so,

I have decided to go through my old pictures and find a picture of myself that I like (it might take a while) and pin it to my mirror, along with the words 'I am completely happy with the person I am right now' 

I will take a look at it at least twice a day, look into my own eyes for 20 seconds, ignore every negative thought that pops into my head, and they will come, thick and fast, and Say out loud, 'I AM COMPLETELY HAPPY WITH THE PERSON I AM RIGHT NOW'

I am going to prove to myself one way or another that I am lovely, I am, I will!!  

I really need to do this, I need to be happy, healthy, and pass this onto my loved ones.

Will you take this journey with me?

I am going to post as often as I can to chart my progress, you may not care, you may not relate to this at all, but for those who do, and feel the same low self esteem, this is me, being a guinea pig for you, and if it works, I hope it is something that you can benefit from, and if it does not work, well, you can see where I go from here,

 It will be forward.